We're in the last throws of packing and closing up everything in the house. In a few hours we'll be above the clouds, heading south. All the way from Africa's west coast to it's southern most tip.
This weekend my stepson is getting married. Not only does this make me feel old! It is also a sentimental occasion and one of those important life defining moments. The children are growing up!!!
The wedding will be very non-traditional which suits me just fine - never having been a traditionalist, nor remotely religious.
Family members from both sides will gather, some from the other side of the world - as the bride is American.
They are having the wedding and reception at a national park - home of the African penguins. You gotta love that. A bunch of guys in tuxedos and matching penguins wobbling about. I'm looking forward to that.
But there is the minor issue of being the step-mom', It's not the most highly regarded position in a family if you know what I mean. Yesterday - when I had WAY more time, I had the idea of writing some witty post about the topic but then I got sidetracked when I found a number of websites outlining the etiquette for step parents at a wedding!!
I couldn't believe it - but if you go HERE you can see a good example.
Who knew I was supposed to sit on a back seat, bow out of the receiving line and most probably wear beige.
The bottom line is that you should try to blend in with the surroundings. In this case, maybe I should go as a penguin?
Well - etiquette and family feuding aside, I'm excited for the young couple - all those hopes and dreams ahead of them!
I plan to have a stiff cocktail near the very beginning and enjoy the day in their honour.
Be back in a week.
xo
26 comments:
That step parent roll is tough. I know, cuz I am right there with you!!
Awkward. Just keep drinking, I'm sure it will all work out.
I am a stepfather and as far as I'm concerned, I'll sit at my stepson's eventually wedding at whatever seat I've earned over the past years.
I hope it goes well and that you get to come out of hiding in time to eat some cake!
Thank goodness for cocktails!!!
Being a step (mom, dad) should not be that hard but we have made it a struggle. Some have it easy because of the relationships they build entering the scene with children and the partner mainly based on their personality.
I think that stepfathers/mothers should play a role in events like these but we also should remember the real father/mother. If that individual is alive they should also play a role if the child is fine with it - based on the history.
I personally believe that the media (movies) plays a critical role in this because all the stepdad/mom roles I have seen have been horrible. The movie characters esp children always regret it because the relationship that they expect to have never happens.
ADVICE to stepmothers/fathers - be the best person you can be to the children, guide, love and protect them.
Have fun - speak with other family members at the event. Give them a chance to know the real you.
Hello Holly, it's Joe Pollitt from African Painters. Thanks for the support and I would like to try and introduce you some wonderful people in Ghana. It's seems to be really happening over there.
I've started another blog called,
Africanartists.blogspot.com
Speak soon,
Joe (africanpainters@yahoo.com or africanartists@hotmail.co.uk)
I hope that you have a brilliant time.
xoxox
Thanks Lee and Matthew - nothing like knowing you are not alone in a situation!!
CPT & LMJ - Will make sure to make use of the free bar - without becoming embarassing :)
Corve - you are right! It's best just to be yourself. Everything will be just fine!!!
UPDATE - we have spent the first chilly but sunny and glorious day in Cape Town and seen the venue - complete with chubby little AFrican penguins waddling freely around. It's going to be great! :)
Joe - thanks!! Will visit the new site!!!
I love the photo of the penguins. Where do you find the perfect photo?
I am not a stepmom, but have one, since my mom passed away. I was much older when my dad remarried (30), so I seriously don't feel like Jill is my stepmom, more like my dad's wife. Depending on the age you remarried, I can see how difficult or easy, certain situations can be. Have a wonderful time.
I loved the picture and the post. Best of luck, though i am not a step parent, my wife is, and she will sit top front with me and the boys mother when\if that day ever comes. She's earned, and nobody can say any different.
Holli I say have a wonderful time and no back seats for you.
Love Renee xoxo
Hope you have a great time anyway. I always find American weddings so formal that it's hard to enjoy them.
I am with the captain above... drink! But seriously, it is a little sticky but you'll rise above, though... the penguin thing would be memorable!
If it were me I were me I would do nothing to blend in and be unnoticed. In fact I would do just the opposite.
I guess every day's an adventure with you.
have lotsa fun n go tipsy ;)
had no clue that there r penguins in africa!
Oh I hate those etiquette sites! Your family wants you, not some wall flower. If you're anything but, I'd imagine they might even be offended.
Hi All - I'm back from the trip and the penguin wedding!
We all survived. I drank quite alot of red wine but maintained my composure and had a great time. We all danced until they closed us down!
I'll be posting about the whole experience in the next couple days.
@ladytruth - THANKS! I am back and can finally visit your site :)
Sounds like a fun wedding!
What national park was the wedding at?
Hi Anon - it was at Boulders Beach near Cape Town...
Good day, sun shines!
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